The Facebook Dilemma

6 Feb

I was just reading through some of the archives for PR Girlz (the company blog I also write for) and I came across a post by Jos about not being on Facebook. Basically her arguments are that she already keeps in touch with those who she wants to and that all in all, Facebook is a big waste of time. That was back in 2007. 

Now that Facebook has exploded the way it has, I wonder – has it become a ‘must-have’? 
Nope, don’t think so. I’ve actually been considering deactivating my account. Since my life got flipped on its head, I’ve been doing a LOT of thinking. Why do we do the things we do? Why do we not do a lot of the things we want? What makes us happy? etc etc. Lots and lots of questions. 
After all this, the conclusion I’ve come to is that I want to try harder to make the most of my day. I don’t want to waste my time ‘creeping’ other people that I don’t really care about, and might not even say ‘hi’ to if I saw them on the street. Like Jos said, I already keep in touch with those I want to. And really, I don’t use it much to communicate with people anyway. 
So I’m thinking maybe I should try devoting my time to more productive and rewarding pursuits. Maybe I’ll blog more instead 😉 
But I wonder – does Jos ever cave in and get a Facebook account?

7 Responses to “The Facebook Dilemma”

  1. Joseph Thornley February 6, 2009 at 1:20 am #

    I’m on Facebook. But it is really a chore to go there. So much noise. So little signal.Twitter, on the other hand, (where I read about this post), connects me directly with the people in my community of interest. A high signal to noise ratio. Everything I could want.

  2. Anonymous February 6, 2009 at 10:35 am #

    I personally really enjoy Facebook. I don’t place personal stuff like photos of my relatives or my ‘relationship status’, but being on this social network is like anything: what you put into it is what you get out of it.

  3. Jos February 6, 2009 at 2:27 pm #

    Hi Kerri! Glad to see you keeping things rolling over on PR Girlz. The answer to your question is no. I have never had a Facebook account and I stand by what I said back in 07. No regrets. Yes, sometimes it would be nice to see people’s pictures on Facebook but that’s not enough for me to sign up. If I want to see pictures so badly, I clearly haven’t seen that person in some time and it reminds me to schedule a visit. Which is really so much better than leaving a message on their wall:)

  4. PRkeener February 10, 2009 at 1:59 am #

    @ Joe – You put it perfectly I think. With Facebook there is just so much going on. For many, it’s all about how many ‘friends’ you have or how many pictures are up. Others use it as a more serious networking tool, but not enough to really make it worthwhile for that purpose. I also find that Twitter is more effective for community building and two way communication.@ Jos – Thanks for stopping by. Like I said, I wasn’t sure you’d ‘find’ my post. Good to hear you’re sticking to your guns though. I haven’t gotten gutsy enough to deactivate my account yet, but I did do a little early spring cleaning and decided to clear out anyone that I don’t actually care enough to know what’s going on in their life. Take care lady!

  5. Jannah February 12, 2009 at 3:59 am #

    Hi Kerri!I am a student in a post-grad Humber PR program and enjoy reading your blog to find out about what the near future as a young PR professional holds!You definitely make some interesting points regarding Facebook, about the time that could be better spent actually calling people and finding out first-hand about their life happenings rather than ‘creeping’ through their pictures and profiles. I totally agree, and yet, know that I would miss it terribly not only for those moments of “I wonder what so and so is up to…” but I genuinely use it to communicate with friends. Little messages or wallposts of encouragement can often be a pleasant surprise to receive. Although, I would agree that Twitter is a more effective means of communicating quickly to a mass of people and in a somewhat more professional manner. I do find that Facebook is an interesting social networking method, with its own unique rules and etiquette, and if not used as a popularity measure can be an effective tool.A concern that comes to mind, as a student looking for an internship and hopefully a real job in the near future, how secure is this mountain of personal information (pictures, quotes, groups, etc.) on your profile? Do the horror stories of employers paying to see your profile actually happen? Many of my classmates are quite concerned about this and have even changed their names, removed their walls and placed themselves as ‘invisible’. It’s definitely a concern and something to ponder…Also, power to Jos for resisting the Facebook movement. I have recently added the Facebbok application to my phone and feel as though I’m pretty deep into the trend and have reached a whole new level of being socially connected.

  6. PRkeener February 12, 2009 at 4:34 am #

    @ Jannah,Thanks for commenting! You raise a VERY interesting and I think important point about online presence. My thoughts have really always been simple: Use your head. Sure, it’s fine to show that you have a personality and you’re outgoing etc etc. But drunken pictures or vulgar friends can leave a bad impression. I’ve written about this before and I stand by what I said then: Facebook is my personal life. So yes, I have my profile somewhat hidden. I use it to stay in touch with friends. I use LinkedIn professional connections. Then I use Twitter and my blog as a combination of those. It all depends what you want to reveal about yourself. I’m of the opinion that if you can show you employers who you are by way of other online means, then it is possible to separate out the Facebook. I’d like to think that if an employer can find you and see you elsewhere, that it shouldn’t be an issue if they can’t see your Facebook page.Glad you’re reading AND commenting – discussion makes blogging a lot easier ;)-Kerri

  7. Zoey Castelino February 20, 2009 at 8:34 pm #

    I have to agree with Joseph on this one. Twitter is a direct connect.I joined the whole Facebook thing last year as a social experiment to see how many readers and fans would jump on board. But it hasn’t really done much for me as a way to connect to people. Maybe because I don’t use to its full capacity. I guess I just rely on Twitter and of course my website and blog.

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